Budgeting and Decisions

Yesterday, my wife and I came to a conclusion: we will not be doing a big U.S. visit in 2019. I got super stressed about this decision while we were making it, but the decision became much easier after doing three things:

• Adding up the costs of the last big trip taken a few months ago. 
• Looking at our budget for the next few months. 
• Talking about the decision with each other. 

The numbers don't lie. The last trip was really expensive. Although there are areas where we could cut costs and optimize, the next one would likely also be expensive in unavoidable ways, and combined with some other upcoming costs and upcoming financial uncertainties (cough cough taxes) it meant we'd be opening ourselves up to too much financial risk. Additionally, even if the uncertainties went our way, another trip would set us back on our longer term financial goals. 

So we had to bail on the idea. I sent out the messages to the relatives. Sorry. No big trip this year. I'd feel guilty, except that I know the numbers and how unrealistic it is to expect to do this every year. 

This is one reason why we should set financial goals, track our spending and budget future spending. At numerous points in my life, major decisions were made much clearer when the budget spit out its numbers. Rather than just a vague unease with a purchase or choice, the numbers show us why we are uneasy. They show us how the unwritten budget math in our minds is most likely lying and presenting an overly rosy view of things. Nearly any major decision can be reinforced or rejected by checking the budget. 

But we have to make one and follow it. It's hard, but it's worth it.